By Murali Neelamegam
My first experience of seeing care, compassion, and courage in action without fanfare was in my late mother.
I had always wondered how she raised 6 children so selflessly. I was told that, as a teenager, my mother was not encouraged to pursue her dream of becoming a teacher. Instead was told to stay at her home and take care of her siblings. She continuously carried on her role as a caregiver as mother, without a break for herself to pursue her own dreams. As our family grew and we developed, I remember her persistently enabling and encouraging us to pursue our dreams.
Over the course of my life, I’ve meandered through the uncharted highs and lows of life, engaging and dealing with life’s wonders and challenges with trepidation, fear, excitement and hope. As the youngest in my family, I was the “witness”, always observing what was happening in life. For most of the time, I remember feeling that I did not have the voice to authentically and truthfully connect with the world, due to my lack of knowledge and experience.
As I progressed through life, I began to realise that for a person to engage with life’s wonders and challengers with agility, resilience, and confidence, it’s not just about attending self-development courses, reading self-help books, going away on indulgent retreats, being inspired by others, or undertaking some sort of physical healing. While I personally believe these activities are essential as part of one’s journey towards evolving and building a sense of purpose built on positive values, it’s equally inspiring seeing those who do without.
My late mother never had access to most of these activities, so external assistance aside, what are some of the other ingredients that are required for a person to be elegantly poised to transact and relate in the world with agility of mind and emotion, resilience to have the courage to take risks, and the confidence to act without fear or trepidation?
Are they internal drivers? Or based on perception?
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I have been inspired to share stories, both personal and through my observations, on what I learn about people, situations and life principles. Many of these instances have impressed upon me that there are other essential ingredients in life one can access to be caring, compassionate and courageous. My intention with this space is to share these stories: not as solutions, but to evoke emotions of change and provoke thinking towards gaining knowledge about the essential nature needed to achieve agility, resilience, and confidence in life.